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Grief & Loss

Grief is one of the most universal human experiences — and one of the most isolating. Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a homeland, your health, or a dream, your grief is valid. At My Sakinah, we walk alongside you with cultural sensitivity, faith-affirming care, and genuine compassion.

What is Grief & Loss?

Grief is the natural emotional response to loss. It is not a disorder — it is love with nowhere to go. However, for some individuals, grief can become prolonged or complicated (Prolonged Grief Disorder), significantly impairing daily functioning for an extended period. Different cultures, religions, and families have varying norms around grief expression, mourning practices, and timelines. At My Sakinah, we honour the diversity of grief experiences and help individuals navigate loss in a way that is consistent with their values and culture.

Common Signs & Symptoms

  • Intense sadness, yearning, or longing for the person or thing lost
  • Difficulty accepting the reality of the loss
  • Bitterness, anger, or guilt related to the loss
  • Feeling that life is meaningless or that part of oneself has died
  • Difficulty engaging in activities or planning for the future
  • Social withdrawal and isolation
  • Physical symptoms: fatigue, appetite changes, sleep disturbances
  • Feeling emotionally numb or detached
  • For Prolonged Grief: symptoms persisting beyond 12 months (6 months in children) with significant impairment

Note: This list is not exhaustive. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, speaking with a mental health professional can help clarify your experience.

How We Can Help

Our practitioners provide a compassionate, non-judgmental space to process grief at your own pace. We use approaches including narrative therapy, meaning-making, and grief-focused CBT. We understand that Islamic grief practices (such as the Iddah period, the 40-day mourning, and the du'a for the deceased) are meaningful and protective — and we integrate respect for these practices into our work. We also support individuals processing non-death losses such as divorce, immigration and displacement, loss of identity, or infertility.

When to Seek Help

Consider reaching out if your grief is preventing you from functioning at work or in daily life; if it has been many months and your grief feels as raw as the first day; if you are experiencing thoughts of suicide or wanting to join the deceased; or if you are using substances or other harmful behaviours to cope. There is no 'correct' timeline for grief, but there is always support available.

Helpful Tips

1Allow yourself to grieve — suppressing grief often prolongs it
2Connect with others who have experienced similar losses; community is a powerful healer
3Honour the person or thing you've lost in meaningful ways — rituals, prayers, acts of remembrance
4Be patient with yourself — grief comes in waves, and some days will be harder than others
5Take care of your basic needs: sleep, nutrition, and gentle movement
6Speak to an imam, chaplain, or religious figure if faith-based guidance is comforting
7Avoid making major life decisions in acute grief when possible
8In Islam, remembering that loss is part of Allah's decree — inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un — can bring peace alongside the pain

You Don't Have to Navigate This Alone

Our compassionate, culturally aware practitioners are here to support you. Take the first step toward healing today.